We have been talking about the value of persistence. Persistence is a good thing, but we can easily cross the line from persistence to stubbornness. Stubbornness is similar to persistence, but there are some key differences.
Persistence is a matter of the heart
Stubbornness stems from pride. It is an unwillingness to yield to wisdom. Stubbornness is "I am right, and you are wrong." Stubbornness stems from feelings of inadequacy and from fear of admitting that I am wrong.
The key difference between persistence and stubbornness is about the heart. It is about motives. Persistence is motivated by faith. Stubbornness is motivated by fear. The Biblical concept of stubbornness is described as hardening of the heart.
Blessed is the one who fears the LORD always, but whoever hardens his heart will fall into calamity. Proverbs 28:14 (ESV)
Persistence is willing to correct a course
Persistence is open to wisdom. Persistence is not as concerned about how we get to where we are going as long as we get to where we are going. Stubbornness is focused on doing it “my way” even if that means we are hindered from reaching our destination.
Persistence is focused on results. Stubbornness is focused on methods. Persistence says, “Let's figure this out.” Stubbornness says, “It’s got to be done this way.”
Persistence is about what I can do
Persistence believes in possibilities. I think of the children’s book, “The Little Engine that Could.” The little engine believed he could, and he did. That is an example of persistence.
Persistence is focused on what is possible. Stubbornness is focused on what we can’t do or what we refuse to do. Persistence looks for solutions. Stubbornness makes excuses.
Stubbornness is the Devil’s Advocate. Occasionally, I will be in a meeting, and someone will say that they will play the role of Devil’s Advocate. My response typically is that the Devil doesn’t need an advocate.
Persistence focuses on what I need to do.
Persistence is focused on results. Stubbornness is focused on methods. Persistence looks to get something done. Stubbornness focuses on how to do something.
Certainly we do not want to compromise ourselves to attain results. But more often than not, stubbornness is not about compromising our values. Our stubbornness happens because we are uncomfortable and or realize that we need to step out of our comfort zone.
Persistence pursues wisdom
Persistence values dialogue and is open to new ideas. Stubbornness is closed off to suggestion. Stubbornness fails to value the input and wisdom of others.
Persistence looks to God for help. Stubbornness says, “I’ve got this, and I don’t need any help.” Stubbornness is blazing a trail and throwing caution to the wind. Stubbornness is a recipe for disaster.
Questions for Reflection
- What is the difference between persistence and stubbornness?
- Are you more given to persistence or stubbornness?
- How do you recognize you are being stubborn?
- Share your comments.
Daniel says
While going through a huge situation at church the opposing opinion are in the holds of persistence and stubbornness. These are the two fighters in the game which is causing upheaval and turmoil in the church. This is preventing our church from moving forward. Thank you for this message will serve as a valuable tool in speaking to the congregation.
Leon says
good explain,thank you