Yesterday, Barbara and I celebrated 12 years of marriage. It was a sweet day. It was extra special this year because it fell on a Sunday, the Lord’s Day!
The morning began with worship at Lord of Life. My parents came by in the afternoon to watch the kids while we went out for an anniversary dinner.
On the way home we witnessed a near fatal car accident. It was a stark reminder of just how precious life is. Combined with the celebration of our anniversary, I wanted to hug everyone just a little bit tighter and savor every moment. Each day we have with our loved ones is a gift from God.
An anniversary is also an opportunity to reflect upon the priority you give marriage. Do you give your marriage the priority it deserves?
Recently, I read an interview of Rick Warren, Pastor of Saddleback Church and author of the Purpose Driven Life. In this interview he shares:
Establishing spiritual habits in your marriage dramatically increases your success rate. One large nationwide study discovered that when a couple develops three spiritual habits: 1) attending church weekly together 2) praying together and 3) reading the Bible together, the divorce rate drops to only one out of 1,105 marriages.
What a contrast with the often quoted divorce rate of 50%. Yesterday, CNN had an article on how the divorce rate among boomers has doubled. We are told the divorce rate among Christians is the same as among non-Christians. The state of marriage is not good.
But, it seems God knows what he is doing. Being married in a church does not constitute a Christ-centered marriage. One can be “Christian” and yet not have given their marriage over to Christ. Yet, when we dig beneath the surface we can see that when Christ is at the heart of the marriage it makes all the difference in the world.
It’s been a great 12 years together with Barbara. I am looking forward to sharing many more years ahead. But if I have anything I would do differently, the first thing that stands out is that I would trust God more with our marriage and commit in a greater way to the disciplines of Scripture and prayer.